You know there’s got to be a better way to parent,
but you’re not exactly sure what that looks like. I've been there.
As a kid, you remember spending endless amounts of days and weeks grounded, sitting in your room, resenting your parents for being unfair and too harsh.
You see other parents disciplining their kids in Target and you cringe watching a parent shame their tired child in public.
You have memories of your childhood and not being heard: “Because I said so!” “Why would you do that, what’s wrong with you? “It’s not that big of a deal,” “Stop crying, you’re being a baby!”
And now you see yourself using these same tools with your children and you want to do better.
You’re tired of constantly finding yourself in power struggles and yelling more than you’d like. You want mutual respect and connection. And you don’t want parenting to feel so bad!
But you don’t want to be a doormat either.
I was exactly where you are 10 years ago.
My husband and I did everything the parenting books told us. We were consistent, had rules and limits, weren't afraid to say no and always followed through when rules were broken with an appropriate consequence or punishment.
But we soon realized that what we were doing wasn’t working. In fact, the tools we were using were just making things worse.
So, if what I now call "traditional" parenting wasn't working, what the heck were we supposed to do?
That was a turning point in my life as a parent, and in my life in general. I spent the next several years trying to find the answer - I read gazillions of parenting books, researched the web, talked to therapists, called mental health organizations - anything I could do to find a better way.
We learned we had to completely change the way we parented.
Fortunately we found a new way and were thrilled to see the changes in our family. With our new parenting tools we were able to lower the temperature in our home and increase cooperation. We now have the skills to raise our daughters in a supportive way that helps them reach their full potential in a compassionate, supportive way rather than killing their spirit.
And now I’m committed to helping as many parents as possible make the shift from damaging traditional/authoritarian parenting to non-punitive, positive parenting - parenting that is more effective and FEELS better too.
Janell is a Certified Parent Coach and a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator.
Over the last seven years she has worked with dozens of parents to equip them with non-punitive and respectful “do no harm” parenting tools that are both kind and firm and help build connection with children, instead of tearing them down. Rather than focusing on the misbehavior itself, Janell teaches parents how to identify what is driving their child’s misbehavior and how to respond in ways that teach important skills such as problem solving, communication, impulse control and emotional regulation.
Janell is committed to researching and learning the latest in parenting methods and therapies, and has studied methods including Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS) and Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT). She is also a member of the Positive Discipline Association and International Coach Federation.
Janell earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in Sociology from the University of California, San Diego and minored in economics and dance.
In addition to her work as a Parent Coach and Educator, Janell is a contributor for The OC Mom Collective (https://orangecounty.momcollective.com/author/janellbitton/) and is the Mission Viejo Chapter President and a Class Coordinator for Lion’s Heart Teen Volunteer and Leaders.
A Los Angeles native, and a Bostonian at heart, she currently lives in Orange County, California with her husband and two teenage daughters.